Like many of you in your mid to late 20’s, I thought things would be different by now. When I was 15, I was sure that by 27 I would be married, living in the perfect house, well in to a successful career (doing exactly what I wanted), and planning for my first child. Today, I am still none of those things. I am unmarried (although recently engaged), I am well in to a career (but still finding my passion), and the last thing on my mind right now is a baby.

I don’t have it all together, I’m actually at a turning point in my life where the things I thought I wanted are just the opposite. For a while I was worried that I wasn’t figuring it out on time, but as I observed other people around me, I’ve come to find I’m not alone.

So many of us are either living at home with our parents or struggling to afford apartments. We’re still in school, still trying to figure out what really hits our core and makes us happy. We’re still looking for ‘the one’, we still believe there is a ‘one’. Our parents are pushing us to have kids because by our age they were already parents (but really, they just desperately want to be grandparents).

The REAL almost 30 is still growing up. I can’t put my finger on why…maybe we were coddled too much, maybe we didn’t want to make the same mistakes our parents did, maybe it was the economy, maybe it was the movies. I don’t know. What I do know is that I don’t have it all figured out. My plan was flawed, but I have not failed. We have to keep changing, growing, and reminding ourselves that we don’t have to have all the answers now even though we expected to.

If you’re going through the same thing. I’d love to hear about it! Tweet me or leave a comment on this post!